We all have a natural instinct to resist change. How often do we occupy the usual seat of ours on the dining table or sofa at home? Take for instance driving - we are so used to the position of clutch and accelerator. Assume, one fine day all automobile firms decide to interchange clutch and accelerator. How difficult you’d find driving your new car? It would take so much longer to adapt and challenging to drive.
Heart in heart, we human beings are very hard wired to preserve status quo. We most often resist or avoid change, but we can’t run away from the fact that if anything is constant in life, its change.
Even if we resist or avoid, change will enter your life. When you reflect back in your life, you will be amused to see that there are changes which you yourselves initiated which gradually became easy to adopt. Over time, we become more flexible and open minded to adopt more so since we wanted it. For me, marriage for instance, was one of the big changes I embraced in my life. I married someone from a different community - the language was different, the food and culture was different from what I was used to. It was difficult initially but when I reflect back, I have become more flexible, open minded and understand cultural differences and diversities better. It actually brought out a new person in me – a wife, mother and of course a responsible mother!
Other big changes which we also consciously do are career shifts. I still remember when I decided to join the defence force to be part of the first batch of women officers in the Indian Navy. It was one big step in my life and there were mixed feeling in my family with questions, doubts and anxiety. It wasn’t easy for me either - leaving my comfort zone of family and entering an organisation which was completely male dominated. Once again when I look back, life in defence transformed me a lot. I have become more independent, self-confident and I got to discover my inner strengths and values which I wouldn’t have known if I had not stepped out of my comfort zone. The next big shift was when I moved to a completely new world once again – the corporate world. All these career shifts not only enhanced by professional and learning experience, these also led me to the realisation of what I wanted to do in my life.
Finally, the big change I initiated was quitting a good job and again lot of eyebrows were raised in my family, friends and colleagues. Now I am truly happy and satisfied doing what I always wanted to do.
In general, when looking back, I realize that all the good things in my life are the results of changes that I initiated or happened in the past.
People avoid changes and prefer to be in their comfort zones. I truly believe that once you get the courage and take the first step towards change, life will be much better and you start loving it.
Some of benefits I have experienced in terms of all the planned and unplanned changes in my life – personal growth, flexibility, newer opportunities, made me stronger and all changes got me to a new beginning and excitement.
Friends, next time you get the temptation to avoid or resist the change, at least initiate the ones that will lead you to where you want to be.